The feeling is given to you: මට instead of මම
English says "I am afraid", "I want", "I understand". Sinhala says half of the feelings otherwise: not "I" but "to me". මම gives way to මට, and the feeling becomes something that happened to you. For example: “මට මේ වැඩේ එපා වෙලා” — I am fed up with this job. A rule from the Sinhala course: worked out on examples, not memorized as a wording.
How it works
English says "I am afraid", "I want", "I understand". Sinhala says half of the feelings otherwise: not "I" but "to me". මම (mama) gives way to මට (maṭa), and the feeling becomes something that happened to you.
That is how මට බයයි ("I am afraid"), මට ලැජ්ජයි ("I am ashamed"). So is මට කේන්ති යනවා (maṭa kēnti yanavā) — "I am getting angry". And මට මේ වැඩේ එපා වෙලා (maṭa mē væḍē epā velā) is "I am fed up with this job".
Not every feeling is like that. Some go through මම: මම බය වෙනවා ("I get scared"), මම ආඩම්බර වෙනවා ("I am proud"). The rough rule holds: a state takes මට, a deed or a change takes මම.
Politeness grows from the same root. මට තේරෙන්නේ නෑ ("it is not clear to me") sounds softer than blaming the other for explaining badly.
Table
| Through මට (it happened to me) | Through මම (I do) | Translation |
|---|---|---|
| මට බයයි | මම බය වෙනවා | I am afraid — I get scared |
| මට ලැජ්ජයි | මම ලැජ්ජ වෙනවා | I am ashamed — I feel shy |
| මට එපා වෙලා | — | I am fed up |
| මට කේන්ති යනවා | — | I am getting angry |
| මට එයාව මතක් වෙනවා | — | I miss him |
| — | මම ආඩම්බර වෙනවා | I am proud |
| — | මම දුක් වුණා | I got upset |
By example
- මට මේ වැඩේ එපා වෙලාmaṭa mē væḍē epā velāI am fed up with this job
- එයාට ලැජ්ජයි කතා කරන්නeyāṭa læjjayi katā karannaHe is ashamed to start talking
- මම පුතා ගැන ආඩම්බර වෙනවාmama putā gæna āḍambara venavāI am proud of my son
How the rule settles in your head
A rule is not memorized from an explanation. It is memorized from an attempt to use it and a mistake — that is why the app delivers it mixed in with words, not as a separate lesson: it resurfaces exactly where you forgot it.
Frequently asked
The feeling is given to you: how does it work in Sinhala?
English says "I am afraid", "I want", "I understand". Sinhala says half of the feelings otherwise: not "I" but "to me". මම gives way to මට, and the feeling becomes something that happened to you.
What does it look like in an example sentence Sinhala?
“මට මේ වැඩේ එපා වෙලා” (maṭa mē væḍē epā velā) — I am fed up with this job. A rule is easier to test on sentences like this than to memorize as a wording: what surfaces in conversation is the sentence.