Merhaba and selam: which hello for whom

Turkish greets with two words, and the choice between them is not about the time of day — it is about who is in front of you. For example: “Merhaba, nasılsınız?” — Hello, how are you?. A rule from the Turkish course: worked out on examples, not memorized as a wording.

Updated September 1, 2026 · Lingofly

How it works

Turkish greets with two words, and the choice between them is not about the time of day — it is about who is in front of you.

merhaba is an Arabic borrowing and a universal key: it suits any hour and anyone, in the places where you would say 'hello' and in the places where you would say 'hi'. In a shop, in an office, with an elder, with a stranger — always merhaba; you cannot go wrong with it.

selam is colloquial, between your own. The root is the same as in 'salaam' and 'shalom' — peace. To a stranger or an elder it is not said: it would sound overly familiar. The rule is simple: until you are on first-name terms, say merhaba.

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Merhaba and selam: which hello for whom
the wordto whomwhat it covers
merhabaanyone, elders and strangers includedboth "hello" and "hi"
selamyour own, peers, friendsonly "hi"

By example

  • Merhaba, nasılsınız?
    Hello, how are you?
  • Selam, nasılsın?
    Hi, how are you?
  • Merhaba, bir çay istiyorum
    Hello, I would like a tea

How the rule settles in your head

A rule is not memorized from an explanation. It is memorized from an attempt to use it and a mistake — that is why the app delivers it mixed in with words, not as a separate lesson: it resurfaces exactly where you forgot it.

Frequently asked

Merhaba vs selam?

Turkish greets with two words, and the choice between them is not about the time of day — it is about who is in front of you.

How to say hello in Turkish?

merhaba is an Arabic borrowing and a universal key: it suits any hour and anyone, in the places where you would say 'hello' and in the places where you would say 'hi'. In a shop, in an office, with an elder, with a stranger — always merhaba; you cannot go wrong with it.

How to greet a stranger in Turkish?

selam is colloquial, between your own. The root is the same as in 'salaam' and 'shalom' — peace. To a stranger or an elder it is not said: it would sound overly familiar. The rule is simple: until you are on first-name terms, say merhaba.

Can you say selam to an elder?

selam is colloquial, between your own. The root is the same as in 'salaam' and 'shalom' — peace. To a stranger or an elder it is not said: it would sound overly familiar. The rule is simple: until you are on first-name terms, say merhaba.

What does it look like in an example sentence Turkish?

“Merhaba, nasılsınız?” — Hello, how are you?. A rule is easier to test on sentences like this than to memorize as a wording: what surfaces in conversation is the sentence.

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