After the quarrel in Slovenian
A park bench, one friend comforting another in Slovenian. 8 phrases that the conversation is made of: «Tri dni si ne piševa. Dovolj mi je tega.» — For three days we haven’t written to each other. I’m sick of it.; «Razumem te. Kaj se je sploh zgodilo?» — I understand you. What actually happened? Every line can be played right on the page. The conversation is predictable: few lines, and almost all of them repeat from one exchange to the next.
How the whole thing sounds
The situation: a park bench, one friend comforting another. The conversation is short and predictable — which is exactly what makes it good for a first try: few lines, and almost all of them repeat from one exchange to the next.
- Tri dni si ne piševa. Dovolj mi je tega.For three days we haven’t written to each other. I’m sick of it.
- Razumem te. Kaj se je sploh zgodilo?I understand you. What actually happened?
- Navaden nesporazum, potem pa je začel kričati.An ordinary misunderstanding, and then he started shouting.
- In ti si molčala? Te je bilo sram?And you kept quiet? Were you ashamed?
- Bolj sem bila užaljena. Nočem se opravičevati.Rather, I was hurt. I don’t want to justify myself.
- Ni ti treba. A nekdo mora popustiti prvi.And there’s no need. But somebody has to give in first.
- Misliš, da se lahko pobotava?Do you think the two of us can make up?
- Seveda. Drži se, vse se bo uredilo.Of course. Hold on, everything will work out.
Lines one by one
| Slovenian | Reading | Translation |
|---|---|---|
| Tri dni si ne piševa. Dovolj mi je tega. | — | For three days we haven’t written to each other. I’m sick of it. |
| Razumem te. Kaj se je sploh zgodilo? | — | I understand you. What actually happened? |
| Navaden nesporazum, potem pa je začel kričati. | — | An ordinary misunderstanding, and then he started shouting. |
| In ti si molčala? Te je bilo sram? | — | And you kept quiet? Were you ashamed? |
| Bolj sem bila užaljena. Nočem se opravičevati. | — | Rather, I was hurt. I don’t want to justify myself. |
| Ni ti treba. A nekdo mora popustiti prvi. | — | And there’s no need. But somebody has to give in first. |
| Misliš, da se lahko pobotava? | — | Do you think the two of us can make up? |
| Seveda. Drži se, vse se bo uredilo. | — | Of course. Hold on, everything will work out. |
How to prepare for a conversation like this
Memorizing the lines is not enough: the other person will say their own thing, not what is written. What helps more is catching the key words by ear and keeping three rescue phrases ready: “I don't understand”, “repeat, please”, “slower”.
And one more thing phrasebooks do not mention: awkwardness gets in the way more than not knowing the words.
- Fear of making mistakes gets in the way of learning a language, and it gets in the way badly. It is one of the most reliably measured findings in the entire field.checked many timesTeimouri, Goetze & Plonsky, 2019, Studies in Second Language Acquisition 41(2) · 19,933 participants from 23 countries; correlation with results r = −0.36.
- That fear can be dealt with — the methods have been tested and they work.checked many timesXiong et al., 2024, Journal of Language and Social Psychology · 37 studies, anxiety reduced by −0.61. Of the seven conditions examined, only age turned out to matter.
Frequently asked
How do you start a conversation in Slovenian in this situation?
“Tri dni si ne piševa. Dovolj mi je tega.” — For three days we haven’t written to each other. I’m sick of it.. The first line in such a conversation is almost always the same, and that is the one worth learning: the other person will carry it from there.
What if you did not understand the reply?
Say “I don't understand” and “repeat, please” — both are in the rescue set. Admitting your language is still shaky almost always makes the other person more patient.
Should you memorize the dialogue?
No. It is more useful to catch the key words by ear: the other person will say their own thing, and a memorized line will not always fit their reply.